So,
This evening I was out to dinner with a couple of friends at a Thai restaurant. The food was really quite nice, in fact, I am pretty sure I will go back, despite the dances. Oh… the dancers…
Near the start of the meal, the Philippine dancing troupe (it was a Thai restaurant, but this is China and Philippine performers are a dime a dozen) came over and sang a song to some people at a table near us. That was all fine and good, I suppose, but one of the Philippine girls looked over at me and I made the mistake of looking back. She looked a little like the friend of another Philippine “performer” girl who had once dated a colleague of mine; I soon realized that she was not, but alas, I had already crossed the Rubicon.
She came over to me and said I was very handsome, and asked me my name. I supposed that was a little forward, but I tolerated it and divulged my name to her. She left it at that, and scampered off to some other part of the restaurant with the rest of her troupe, babbling away in Tagalog about what, given what was to happen, I can only assume was me.
Anyway – I sat and enjoyed my meal, which as aforementioned, was reasonable by most standards. We were just about to go, and enjoying some tea, when the troupe advanced upon us. First, the girl who had first asked my name proceeded to ask me my name again, and apologized to me for forgetting it. Then, a dancing “girl” (I think it was a guy in drag) asked me to dance. I refused several times, finally citing my recently full stomach as an excuse (not that a simple “no thanks” shouldn’t have been enough). This wasn’t it, though, as then a male member of the troupe came over and started… what I can only describe as, um, making me feel very uncomfortable. The conversation went something like this…
Creepy Philippine Dancing Guy = CPDG
Me = Me
CPDG: Hi, you are so handsome did you know that?
Me: Um, thank you.
CPDG: Yeah, really, really handsome.
Me: Thanks.
CPDG: I like you.
Me: Thank you.
CPDG: Do you like me?
Me: Sure but, uh, not like that.
CPDG: Can I have your phone number or can we meet up some time?
Me: Uh.
CPDG: Yeah, can I get your number please?
Me: I don’t think that would be appropriate.
CPDG: Ok, well, I really like you.
Me: K.
CPDG: Increasingly forward remarks.
Me: Increasingly annoyed responses.
The girl, the guy in drag, and the flamboyantly gay guy in turn asked me to dance with them again, to which I in turn refused them with increasingly less degrees of politeness, although I kept my cool. They finally went off saying “come back soon Evan!!!” Well, except for that little bit, the restaurant was good. I am on the fence about going back though.
Honestly, what the fuck? I know that most Philippine people in China are pretty low in culture, but they were serving all flavours this evening. Girls, he-she’s, and guys. The part that pissed me off the most was that they completely spared my friends this harassment, and only focussed on me. I was pretty close to speaking with their manager, but decided against it in the end. Next time though, if I do decide to go back, I’m going to ask them not to pull that shit, and if they do I’m going to get their manager involved. Completely unacceptable.
I am trying not to pre-judge people, but good grief, every time I meet Philippine people in the entertainment industry, it’s like this. I find that they simply lack the common sense of decency that more cultured people take for granted. Spanish influenced peoples of the world simply don’t appeal to me.